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Kamala Harris and businesswoman Mellody Hobson have in common? They’re all married to white men. But despite these real-world examples of interracial relationships, a 2010 Pew Research Center report found that black women are the least likely group of women to marry, especially outside of their own race. Thanks to our sponsors: View all sponsors. That fact led one Northwestern University professor to write a book advocating for more black women to consider dating men outside their own race – specifically, white men – if they’re looking to get married. “There are far more black women than there are black men in this country, and that’s been for some time,” said Cheryl Judice, a sociologist and adjunct faculty member in Northwestern University’s School of Education and Public Policy. “Right from age 16 and forward, black women start outnumbering black men. For whites, that doesn’t happen until age 32,” she said. “As a result, if you don’t think about dating outside the race, then you very might well may wind up single.” The book, “Interracial Relationships Between Black Women and White Men,” includes real stories of romantic relationships – from dating, marriage to divorce – between black women and white men. For example, there’s the story of Celeste, a 29-year-old woman who never considered dating outside her own race but when she did, she found her relationship with a white man to exceed her expectations. Judice said it’s common for black women to not consider dating white men for a few reasons, including historical tensions and a lack of positive black female representation in the media. “Can you think of any media … where black women have been touted as the most desirable romantic partners? Nowhere,” Judice said. “Generally speaking, the idolized version of an American beauty is a white woman who is thin and blonde and blue-eyed.” And then there’s the story of Denise and Todd, a married couple whose marriage survived despite having different socioeconomic backgrounds and difficulties with families echoing harmful stereotypes. Judice said she focused on relationships with white men because of history. “Relationships with other men of color don’t hold the same historical dimensions,” she said. “Black women have never been enslaved by other group of men other than white men, so you have that whole history right there that makes these relationships [between black women and white men] the most different, the most daring.” Despite this, Judice said race was not an important factor for most of the 120 people she interviewed for the book. “The main thing that I found most interesting is that these people are just normal people,” she said. “Their stories – without including their race, in many cases –are typical of anybody else’s story: parents objecting, financial problems, sexual issues.” Below, the introduction to “Interracial Relationships Between Black Women and White Men.” Black women are the only group of women in America who cannot take for granted that if they seek marriage to a black man that there will be an ample supply of available men from which to choose. This is not a new problem, indeed, it goes back several decades but there hasn’t been much public discussion about how to resolve this issue. It is almost like the plight of black women looking for eligible partners is the elephant in the room. Between issues related to skin color, hair texture, and low self-esteem, it is more difficult for black women to talk about it publicly to draw attention to the problem. I am tired of meeting so many women who have suffered in silence and simply given up on having someone love them for who they are. I am writing this book because I have seen first-hand the sadness many black women live with who have never experienced a fulfilling romantic relationship. To be sure, many of these women lead productive and fulfilling lives without ever marrying, some even decide to have children without husbands, but a common thread I have observed among many is a wistfulness for a part of life which has been denied to them…a part of life all other groups of women take for granted. I have set out in this book to explore the lives of black women who have chosen to cross the racial divide in their quest for personal happiness. Most young girls grow up fantasizing about dating and marrying someone within their own racial/ethnic group, and indeed, approximately 87% of marriages in the U.S. are between people of the same racial/ethnic backgrounds. Black girls growing up today face a very different reality as illustrated by a few daunting statistics. First, the number of black females begin to outnumber black males by age 16, for whites, this does not happen until approximately age 32. Second, black men are more than twice as likely as black women to marry outside of the race, black women are the least likely group of women to marry outside of the race. Third, for every 100 college educated black females, there are approximately thirty-five to forty comparably educated black males. These statistics underscore a sobering reality that set the parameters for this book.